five more minutes

One of the things I've learned about grief is that some of the pain of it is lessened by just talking about the person who's died: what they were like, what their interests were, what made them flawed or amazing. That's why this moment meant so much to me, and why I wrote up this list. Sharing who my dad was with people who never knew him helps keeps him alive, in some small way, if only for the few minutes spent talking about him.

I don't know anything about the man in the video below, other than the fact that, before he died last year, he was the good friend of a friend of mine.

What was he like? I asked my friend, who messaged me late last night to let me know that he, too, was feeling a bit twisted; that he, too, was missing the people he'd lost.

Beautiful, he replied, and he sent me a link to a YouTube video featuring the singer/songwriter. I can't watch this, but you can. So I did. And now one more person can testify to the talent of his friend.

I was going to embed that video to share it with you guys, but I think the one below features a song that's even prettier. Like I say, I never knew him, and chances are slim any of you did, either. But if you've ever lost someone and you understand that impulse to share with the world something about him or her, please take five minutes to watch this. I have a friend who I think would be happy to know that even a few more people got to witness part of what made his friend special.

His name was Joseph Tobin, and wow, is my friend right. Beautiful indeed.