birthday interlude

"What should we do for my birthday?" he asked, and by then it was coming up quick. He'd had time to choose his own adventure, but hadn't yet mapped anything out. 

"Do you want me to plan something?" 


"With your friends or just us? Because if with friends, I'm gonna need numbers."

"Just us."

And so I was deemed Birthday Director for the second year in a row, a title that holds very little pressure when the honoree is as easily pleased as him. Gratitude is his natural state. Simple gifts, simple gestures - they simply delight him. It's simply lovely. 

I chose a cabin in the mountains near a lake, because of course. He is woods and water, fish and fire: a Portland transplant. For days I teased him with photos of plank decks surrounded by towering sequoias - a green oasis above the smoke and smog of LA. Ours alone for two nights of whatever we wanted. He worked himself into a fever pitch of excitement over a one-bedroom AirBnB a mere two-hour drive away. It can be very easy to make him feel loved. Which tracks, because it is very easy to love him. 

We ended up leaving later than we'd planned (miscommunication + misunderstanding + crossed emotional wires tripped us up temporarily) - but by 2pm we were on the road.

Freeway, highway, grocery store for supplies. I filled the cart with fruit, snacks, and frozen meals while he lingered over toys and tech gadgets. 

"Look, babe. Dinner." I held up an enormous, family-size package of macaroni and cheese, knowing he'd find it as absurd and therefore essential as I did. I couldn't wait to sit awkwardly far apart from him, divided by a meal the size of my TV, high on shrooms and attempting to spoon white cheddar mac n' cheese into our hysterically laughing mouths. Meanwhile, he'd grabbed an RC car set, a pair of LED headlamps, and a weird little plastic foot massager he'd surprise me with later, rolling it over the calves he knows are my forever sore spot.

Adventure Babes, as he had verbally hash-tagged us the minute we got in the car, were armed and ready. 

The cabin was smaller than I expected, and we got briefly lost and cranky on the narrow, winding country road it hid on. These facts combined with the headache I felt coming on made it hard for me to find my bearings for a minute. Ever sensitive to the vibes between us, he unpacked quietly as I set to rearranging the space. I moved furniture, rugs, pillows and blankets to optimize the coziness of our chillout space on the front deck. 

A bottle of wine, a baggy of psilocybin, and a favorite playlist. Oxygen oozing from trees that literally grew through the house. My headache cleared off quickly, and the emptiness of my stomach cleared a path for quick onset of the shrooms. Just enough to forget I'd been tense twenty minutes prior. Just enough to put on one of the headlamps, a pair of sunglasses, some slippers, and shuffle around the house cackling at my own dumb jokes while he cooked, his own tensions melting away in a tab of lsd and a glass of moscato. I clicked through the settings of the headlamp, stabbing him with the spotlight shooting out from my forehead. He flinched; I howled with laughter. 

"You look like a jackass," he said, which is a thing we only call one another when we are high and extremely emotionally close. It is always accompanied by a suppressed smile and often followed by intense physical affection. Translated it means "I fucking love you." 


The thing about looking someone in the eyes and not saying a word is that you can imagine they're thinking anything. You can write any script you want to, in your head, as they move on top of you, under you, inside of you, through you. You can pretend that when they pin you down or pull you close, that you're on the same psychological plane, connecting on thoughts that perfectly puzzle together what the other wants and needs.

But the thing about looking someone in the eyes after a year and a half and still feeling your breath stolen, suspended, silently restrained in the chemistry that is somehow, mystifyingly, stronger every fucking time - is that you know you actually are.

You know.


We lounged. I lined an outdoor loveseat with blankets and pillows and stared for hours at the treetops swaying above. When it got dark, he surprised me with the galaxy projector aimed up at the branches, a thousand pin pricks of laser light crawling across the pines. I hadn't thought it would work, had tried myself but couldn't get the placement right. Had been seriously bummed. But he fixed it. "What's going on out on the patio?" he asked casually, coming back into the kitchen. I stepped outside and saw and screamed, clasping my hand over my mouth. It couldn't have been more beautiful.

We ate. We snacked on grapes so plump you could eat them like tiny apples. He made me bacon and pork chops, marinating steaks, and bringing me snack after snack where I lay outside, forgetting I ever had a job or any adult responsibilities at all. We'd bought a box of individual fruit gummy packs, which I started demanding as payment for doing small favors or tasks. It became a thing. Once when he gave me one, I walked into the bedroom and set it down, then came back out empty handed. "Babe. You are not going to believe this, but I just got mugged in the bedroom. They took everything. They took the gummy snack. I'm....I'm gonna need another one." Biting back a smile, he fetched another one and handed to me, avoiding eye contact. 

We laughed. I discovered that grapes can wear raspberries like tiny wigs, brought one to him wordlessly, high and utterly fascinated. We were quiet for half a second, gazing in wonder at my creation, and then we lost it. We just fucking lost it, and we didn't recover for two days. We found hilarity in every single thing we touched, said, ate, did. A shared pot pie became the single funniest object on planet earth when we decided that unearthing the rare, seemingly hidden peas in the pastry shell was an act of pea-leontogy. We accidentally launched the rubber ball I keep on hand for goofing around with on top of a partition in the cabin, and he rigged up a broom with a plastic hanger and one of the headlamps. For most of the night, he'd intermittently stop whatever he was doing and take a crack at wrangling it back down. Finally he realized he could lift me up to the edge of the wall where I'd be able to use his contraption to snare the ball. With one hand holding my ass up and the other waiting to hand off the broom, he supported me as I grappled and then grabbed. We got it. The victory was immeasurable. We love that dumb little ball.

We adventured. When it got dark, we loaded up his backpack with water, snacks, various cameras, my inhaler, and weed, and crept out onto the pitch black road. Fully expecting to hit a dead end of nothing but private drives but doggedly determined to make it as dramatic a walk as possible, we ended up finding an a creepy, COVID-abandoned camp of some sorts, a complex of buildings that included a massive, deserted mess hall and industrial kitchen. We poked around with our flashlights, completely forgetting our headlamps, tiptoeing into a pantry still stocked with cookware and tools. I saw a wall ladder leading to an attic, and swung myself onto it before he could object. In the crawlspace above was nothing but insulation and some coils of copper wiring - but everything feels more dangerous when you're not supposed to be seeing it. Back outside on the grounds, shushing one another as we wondered at the weirdness we'd wandered into, we suddenly stopped short. Two queen-sized, carved wooden bed frames with turned legs sat outside, on a concrete clearing, at an angle from one another that didn't make any sense. What the actual fuck. The whole setup felt thoroughly cultish and eery as hell, and we decided to scoot before getting busted for trespassing. It was the perfect little adventure.

We played. With nothing but my rubber ball, a wooden crate, a linen hamper, and a stack of giant Jenga blocks, we invented game after game after game. Sometimes we'd lose the ball in the ravine below, and I'd stomp around in the dead leaves and cobwebbed bushes, high and fearless. "Leaves of three, let it be," he called in warning from the deck above. I'd return, triumphantly wielding the ball in my hand, and challenge him to mini feats of arcade-style athleticism. "I bet I can lob this ball over the ceiling beam without hitting it" or "Try and bounce it over the pillow into the crate, like a miniature golf course." Age differences don't matter when you both act like ten year-olds. 

We explored. We drove to the lakeside town where my dinosaur-obsessed boyfriend happened upon an actual dinosaur store. Some paleontologist had opened up a boutique with his wares: smooth Megalodon teeth, globes of fossilized amber in shades of rose and gold. Several million years-old toys for several hundred dollars a pop. I drooled over a stunning polished, cylindrical lamp cut from various geodes, and bought the only souvenir I could afford: a quarter-sized cluster of periwinkle grape agate. "I'm going to stack it on top of the two stones you brought me from Portland," I told him. "Like a tiny cairn." 

We connected. We dj'd our favorite music for one another. He showed me a little graphic story he'd created, and played a sunrise set he'd written. Again and again, in the emotionally-neutral space of a stranger's home, we hid no emotions. Before him, no one had ever actually touched my face, locked eyes with me, whispered how much they love me. I didn't think that was a thing that existed in the world, because I'd never known a man man enough to do it. And with him I get it over and over and over, and it has become the very drug I need to survive. It is an unbearable sweetness, this soft, quiet, affection. The gentle restraint until there is no more restraint. I'll never get over him.


Psychedelics dilate time, but it still went fast. Forty hours, more or less. He slept the whole way back, partied totally out.

Babe :) he texted me a few hours after I dropped him off. 


I love you


Your smile, your booty, your laugh, your everything

I think, translated, that means I did a good job as Birthday Director again this year, and that I don't have to get over him just yet. 

conferta confecta

I've always thought of myself as a closet misanthrope. That's not really the right word. I don't hate mankind. But I sort of lowkey wanted to see the world...tested. I secretly loved the idea of some apocalyptic event leveling the playing field. Tabula rasa. A do over. And this time let's make it fair, motherfuckers. End of the world movies have always been my favorite for this reason. Most people I know found Wall-E depressing. I found it vindicating. It's what's coming, you guys. Laugh it up. You'll see.

I remember once as a kid driving by a massive landfill, on some family road trip. I couldn't wrap my brain around the scope of it. I questioned my parents for days, upended by the realization that there was that much junk, that close to cities where people, like, lived. I don't know how I thought trash was disposed of up until then. I probably thought it was all burned and thus neatly, permanently erased from existence. 

After that my radar was forever sensitive to stories about mass waste. I learned about plastic islands in the ocean, trash mountains in third world countries, even space debris - and it started to dawn on me that there was simply not enough room on the planet for all the people and all the things they threw away. It just wasn't tenable. Where the fuck did we think we were going to put it all? It seemed absurd that we thought we could keep going like we were. It seemed even more absurd that no one was freaking out about it. 
I became a teenager with much bigger things to worry about, so that seed of disgust just quietly took root in the back of my mind. But then came two decades of watching the world more or less shrug its shoulders first at the ozone layer, then oil spills, then animal extinctions, then the corral reefs dying, then the glaciers melting, then increasingly disastrous natural disasters, and now my state is burning down around me while my president makes every single thing that's already bad, worse.  

And now that everything is truly terrible, it turns out I'd like to change my answer from I told you so and we kind of all deserve it to Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

I know the world isn't really ending...but it kind of is. Some of what we're experiencing will get better. The pandemic will end, eventually. Trump will leave the White House, eventually. The wildfires will be put out, eventually. But the cultural, social, economic, and environmental cats are all out of the bag. Wealth disparity and class warfare are only going to get worse, unless enough progressives with enough power find ways to shift the paradigm. And they'd better do it hard and fast, because meanwhile, to quote Bill Nye, the planet is on fucking fire. Climate change is going to make once farmable land unusable and force mass migrations - but only for those who can afford to move. Water wars are coming. And my country is too fucking stupid to enact UBI, which would raise the floor and help millions of people have a shot at surviving the heartbreaking and gross socioeconomic inequities which exist, which are insidious and intergenerational, and which are only going to get worse.

And here's the thing I have learned about myself, through all of this. I'm not a misanthrope at all. I'm actually so empathetic that now when I feel hopelessness, it's not for myself, but for how fucked up everything is, in general, for everyone.

I'm most devastated for anyone younger than me. I can't imagine what it's like to be a teenager or a zoomer right now. I'd be fucking furious at the world I was inheriting. I feel like mine is one of the last generations to have had it really good. Really green, really clean, and really simple. When I was growing up, kids were pushed out of the house after school, told to go play and come back at dinner time. News was once nightly, with Tom Brokaw. That was it. No doomscrolling for hours on Twitter. No getting oversaturated and overstimulated with depressing story after depressing story on social media. No depressing story after depressing story, period. 

Yes of course there was bad news. No period of history is without scars. But this is it. We've heard from the scientists. We can't undo what we've done to our one, precious planet. And the outlook for the world's economics isn't much better. 

Rambling. Sad angry rambling without much point, other than to get it out of my head. 

Is it still depression if the sadness has an identifiable cause, and no clear solution? I don't think I'm depressed so much as despairing. And I feel like in order to not totally give in to that despair, I'm going to need to absorb less and less of the world's sad, bad news. 


As usual, I meet him on the street outside my building. Sometimes we call to one another in the dark, a high-pitched chirp or squawk. It's one of the wonderfully dumb us-isms that make too much time apart start to hurt. Amazing how the silliest bonds can be some of the strongest.

Tonight I just silently smile and open my arms in invitation. Nothing in this world like the feel of him, after a break. Weeks of tension and loneliness melt off of me and I unwind, finally relaxed in the security of our reunion. I am entirely too dependent on his love, entirely too hinged on the ups and downs of our relationship - but the world has grown terrifying and awful and I need him. I unapologetically need him.

"I got some licorice," he announces, and I see telltale bits of red in his perfect, bright smile. "And I have a surprise for you."

We stay so long on the sidewalk, hugging, saying hello, and just breathing one another in, that someone on a patio nearby cracks a joke. We don't quite catch it, something teasing or perhaps mildly derogatory. 

"I haven't seen this fool in three weeks," I explain to the voice. I take his hand and lead him to the gate. "We have work to do," I add, over my shoulder.

But we don't get five feet before he stops me, needing to reconnect now, here, it can't even wait until we get upstairs. This is a thing he does, a thing about him I love so much. His urgency to get everything out that he needs to tell me, right away. He needs me to know all the things that are on his mind about us, about me, about how he feels. How he's missed me, how much he's thought of me, how he can't wait to show me this that or the other thing he's gotten for me or for us. Sometimes there are apologies in this outpouring; often soothing reassurances (see above reference to insecurity). And it's all laced together with the most exquisite demonstration of physical affection. He slides his fingers around the back of my neck, his thumb along my jaw, looking me straight in the eye. He presses his forehead to mine, wraps me up in his arms, growling at the feel of my body again after so long. Deep sighs, whispers, compliments. Bliss.

Whenever he does this, I am reminded of how it feels when, on a chilly day, the sun comes out from behind the clouds. A sense of relief and gratitude for the return of warmth. Being back in the sunshine of his love is an all too real, visceral comfort. 

We stop another two times before getting to the elevator. And even when we get to my floor, he won't let me out of his arms, won't stop talking to me, loving on me. The elevator door closes on us twice before we make it out. In the span of five minutes - just being near him again with all his warm bright sunlight energy - my very immune system has boosted. I can fucking feel it. I can feel how happiness is flooding my bloodstream, like a drug.


Star machine.

Star machine.

I know it's called something else, a laser sky or a galaxy projector, whatever. But I'm calling it the star machine.

The feel of you. You need to know. I need you to know. I don't trust this world anymore, I don't trust it not to take you away from me. I don't trust myself not to lose you. So you need to know.

The feel of you.

We say puzzle pieces, but do you really understand? It's lock and key. I can barely let my mind settle on how perfect you are, it feels dangerous, like I'll never get some part of myself back, if you go. You think I hate when you sleep, but sometimes, sometimes when you sleep it's my favorite thing because then I can just look at you. The lines of your body, you don't know. You have no idea, but you should. From your cheek down your neck across your shoulders down your back to your waist. You should know. Anything could happen, so you should know.

You should know that when we are twinned up, entwined, smiling at one another in unimaginable bliss, that it's like nothing I've known. You release and ignite something in me that no one ever has, and you should fucking know it. 

Look at me and tuck my hair behind my ear. Twist it in your fingers. Press your face to my body and whisper how beautiful I am, how much you've missed me. When you do these things I'm not even sure I'm myself anymore. How could I be? How could I be the same person that has to get up, get dressed, leave, be a person, pay bills. Not possible.

Stay with me in this space we have created, we can keep it perfect if we try. Don't go away too long, please. Don't forget how this feels. Everything out there is awful but in here there is only our love and our laughter and we are safe. Don't go away too long. 

Bring the sunshine back soon.

like neon

I am developing an imaginary suit of armor, so that in the stillness of night, when all pretense of strength has dropped away and I am left exposed, the arrows that come for me can't pierce as deeply.

At first I pictured actual armor. Brass, glinting, annealed - strong as flint. But I am no superhero. 

Now I see light. Warm and white, humming like neon. I bring one knee down, curling into myself, and it cocoons me naturally. It wraps around my body, protective and fierce. And though there is no escaping the onslaught of memories, judgments, fears - if I meditate on this visual - the sting is mitigated. 

I'm trying to convince myself I was born with it. 

my new place

In November of last year, Kenny and I agreed that if we found the right place at the right price, fuck it, we'd move in together. He'd ditch his NoHo studio and I'd ditch my Ktown one, and we'd join forces and finances on a two bedroom. 

A couple weeks after that, a one bedroom opened up in my building. And though it was tiny, the rent was amazing. We talked and agreed that it would be worth it to shack up someplace much smaller than we wanted, temporarily, to give us time to find the perfect two bedroom. I knew that if we changed our minds and I had to pay for the apartment myself, I could - so I jumped on it.

Then (and I've no plans to delve into reasons beyond this), he and I realized we aren't ready to live together. So the place became mine alone.

I never took any photos of it, but it was pretty cute. Nicely finished like my studio, and I made it super cozy with rugs and whatnot. But the building was truly terrible. My neighbors were trash. They treated the property like garbage, and my landlord didn't care, even before COVID hit. I fought the good fight, but Ktown is thoroughly infested with roaches - ask anyone who's lived there. It was depressing as hell, but cheap, and I was quickly paying off my credit cards. So I stayed. 

Then COVID hit. And at some point I'll circle back and tell my pandemic story, but suffice to say my very crowded neighborhood, the constantly fighting, non-socially distancing tenants in my building, and my daily subway commute all became suddenly very scary.

Now, one of the crazy silver linings I experienced because of COVID was financial, insanely enough. I was allowed to work as much as I wanted - and I was still an hourly worker. I worked every single day, for weeks and weeks. Every single day. No days off. I crushed overtime. I was given a bonus and then hazard pay. I obliterated five figures of credit card debt in a few months. I completely turned my finances around, while most of the world was losing their jobs. It was surreal and I am endlessly indebted to my amazing company (again, I'll tell the whole story later) for their generosity.

I started to make a plan to get the fuck out of Koreatown. I was originally thinking fall; I had a certain number in mind that I wanted as a savings cushion, when I moved. I already knew the place - one of my girlfriends had just gotten an apartment there. It was built in the 80s, just on the other side of the freeway, in "Downtown West" as it's called. It has massive, light-filled lofts at a fraction what they cost in the financial district just a few blocks away, a pool, a fitness center, and tenants who've been there decades, they love it so much. 

I reached out to the leasing agents, just to start the conversation and get on their list (I wanted to find exactly the right unit), and one thing led to another. In July I signed a lease and moved in. It was a sped-up timeline, which made me nervous, but it proved to be one of the best decisions I've made in years.

I'm a 12 minute walk from my work. I don't have to get on the train at all anymore. But if I want to, I'm a 10 minute walk to the downtown hub of 7th St./Metro. From there I can get to Hollywood, Santa Monica, Pasadena, the Valley, the airport - pretty much anywhere I need to go. I'm a ten minute walk from Whole Foods as well as a regular grocery store (though there's actually a really nice Grocery Outlet across the street from me). I'm an eight minute walk from Target, Fig & 7th, and the Bloc (shopping/dining complexes). Plus, obviously, all of downtown - bars, nightclubs, restaurants - is literally at my feet (I live on top of a hill - more on that later). 

The change in my lifestyle was so abrupt and so vast I honestly didn't know what to do with myself, for the first few weeks I lived here. My place is easily twice the size of the Ktown one bedroom, and probably four times the size of my studio. I went from having no AC, no dishwasher, a bullshit tiny fridge and a shit building with no amenities - not even functional laundry, at the end - to having central AC and heating, a huge fridge with an ice maker, a dishwasher, a microwave, a pool and jacuzzi, a fitness center, a washer and dryer in my unit, and a balcony. Absolute fucking rags to riches for your girl. 

Blogger's new formatting is totally wack, and I can't figure out how to add captions. And believe it or not, as bright as it looks, this is actually on a very dark day - because, you know, all of California is on fire.

My balcony isn't finished and the bathroom is huge and has a wall-spanning mirror I'm not in the mood to try and hide from - so here's my place sans balcony and bathroom:

red sky shadow monster

I had plans to sit down and write a flurry of posts tonight. I've been making notes of things to blog about - small, inconsequential things. Poetic (to me) notions I've had lately. Little victories I want to remember. An essay on what it feels like to watch the world burn, as a Gen X'er. Just my usual self-absorbed bullshit. 

But now that I am here, there are lead weights on my hands. Everywhere I turn my thoughts is like pushing on a bruise. This time. This insane, apocalyptic time. What can you even say? How can you find level enough emotional ground to be still and corral your thoughts? I fucking can't.

Every otherwise quotidian challenge is amplified by the sadness we're already carrying. The pandemic. Our joblessness, or that of our friends and family. The surreal state of politics. The racism and violence. The natural disasters coming so furious but so frequently that we're in danger of getting inured to them - until they suddenly kill us.

Pasadena is under evacuation watch, because of the wildfires. Fucking Pasadena

I play distraction games with myself. French exercises, reading, yoga, running, cooking. Thirty minute blocks of doing whatever holds my attention until inevitably, around eleven o'clock at night, everything I've held at bay all day comes crashing in with a vengeance. And then I am racked. All the pain and uncertainty I feel for myself and the people I care about, all my failures past and present. There's no hiding under the covers from any of it.

I'm used to depression. I've either lived with it shadowing me or straight up enveloping me for most of my adult life. But now I am seeing my friends suffer, growing listless under their forced inertia. And it makes me angry. So, so angry. They didn't do anything wrong. They don't deserve it. If I could I'd siphon it all off of them, out of them. Make them pure and whole and untouched by the monster who is my familiar. 

Tonight the sky is red and my afflatus...flat. I will try again tomorrow. 


I have been spending all my quarters on the claw game that is us. I'm not getting any better, but I'm definitely going broker.

At first I thought it was about precision. That if I puzzled out the distance and depth - if I reached just far enough - I would get you in my grasp. It didn't work. 

Down you tumbled back among the others, sinking in the softness, winking one perfect, plastic blue eye at me. I was teased, I was titillated. I tried again. 

I thought maybe my perspective was off. That from where I stood unmoving, you were too two-dimensional. And god knows you are anything but. So I went this way and that, lifting and dropping my head, tracking you like an animal that hasn't yet decided whether it wants to be caught.

But all my dancing around made me run out of time, and the joystick went joyless in my hand.

I cashed in a five, then a twenty, then my heart's savings, and I played until the arcade attendants (who look suspiciously similar to my friends) gently pulled me away.

"We open at 11," they said, leading me to the exit. "But maybe consider a hike instead?"

I am determined to beat this game. The prize is wildly out of reach, but I am wild about the prize. Though if you could just lean towards me the tiniest bit, we'll have a much better chance of winning.

magic indeed

for Sam Harris

Last night I took somewhere between one and two grams of psilocybin (powdered caplets of questionable dosage) and when they kicked in two hours later, turned off the lights, put on my compression sleep mask (the closest thing I have to a blindfold), put in my AirPods, and climbed underneath my favorite knit blanket.

In the safety of my own home, cozy in the comfort of my unnecessarily huge bed, and with no company other than the music of Joel Zimmerman, I melted into my own mind for two and a half hours of soul-righting joy.

I know I get dramatic about psychedelics. I can't help it. They change my life, every time. It's why I feel compelled to advocate (okay, fine, evangelize) for them - with all the usual stringent disclaimers. So buckle in, because this will be no different.

Last night I got past the paywall of my own subconscious. I was guided there with extraordinary love (mine) and light (also mine). In this deepest of caverns there exists the singular clarity that I very purposefully set off to find: self-love. Earlier in the day I had been disappointed by canceled plans. That itself is not such a blow under normal circumstances. But in case you haven't noticed, these are not normal circumstances. 

The absolutely wrecked state of the country has been pushing me further and further into despair, and my pain is manifesting in really awful, damaging ways. I have a lot of trouble being alone. Like - a lot. Me, solo Coachella girl. Me, sibling-less, dog-less, divorced orphan. Me. I'm clinging to people in ways that are deeply unhealthy. Needing more from others than I should be able to find in abundance, in myself. It is a desperate and lonely place to be.

That's where LSD and psilocybin come in. Because they are so powerful and because I have slid down the darker side of them, I only have the nerve to fuck with them a couple times a year. But when I do, my bravery is rewarded like it was last night. I slipped down, down, down and landed face to face with the thing I have been struggling with lo these many socially distanced months.

This is where it gets hard to express what I felt. This is where it gets unavoidably esoteric. I'll just say this. Last night I remembered...everything. I remembered that I am enough. I remembered that no matter who moves through my life, I am the constant. I am my own source. 

Of course, all the while I was reveling in this revelation, I was treated to the most phenomenal light and sound show that the universe has to offer. Just an absolute fucking mental festival. I laughed, delighted by the complexity of the simplicity. I cried happy tears. I twisted and turned under the soft blanket and thrust my hands up to touch the kaleidoscope above me (plot twist: it was actually inside me). When I emerged at 11pm, everything still very much aglow and askew, I attempted to eat a hot dog (only thing on hand) - but I couldn't, because I couldn't stop laughing at it. Please picture me standing in my near-dark kitchen, in only a hoodie and my slipper boots, just savagely laughing at this poor hot dog. Finally I gave up and ate some raspberries that tasted like the entire rainbow. It was the best date I've had with myself in a long, long time.


When I am extremely low and just barely hanging on, I will ask the friends I trust most with my vulnerability: I'm a good person, right? 

Last night I understood the purity of my own heart, and loved myself for it. 

Sending you all the best you deserve, which is vastly more than this sideways-fucked country is clearly capable of giving you right now. Occasional moments of calm and inner peace are all I can hope to surf to from time to time - I hope you have some of those moments, too.